Old Self, New Self · Online, in English

Do you feel like you slip back into who you no longer want to be?

You're not just "always like this." That's your old self showing up in a moment of stress — not proof of who you really are. There's a way to catch it in the moment it appears, name it without judgment, and choose differently, even under pressure.

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When the old you shows up

Relapsing isn't proof you never change. It's a moment, not a verdict.

You said the same thing you swore you wouldn't say again. You went quiet the same way you went quiet last time. You left the room the way you always leave the room. And right behind it comes the sentence: "I never change." But that's not what happened — what happened is that the old you showed up, because you were tired, or scared, or cornered, and the old you is the version that knows how to survive stress fast, even when it costs you something you've been trying to build. Recognizing it hurts more, not less, when it happens right after you'd started to believe you'd left it behind. For a lot of people who live between Spanish and English, that old self has a specific shape: maybe it's the sentence that comes out in Spanish before you can stop it, in a meeting you'd been holding together in English all day — or the version of you that goes quiet exactly the way your family went quiet, in a country where nobody taught you the words for saying "I'm overwhelmed" out loud.

Therapy doesn't ask you to never slip again. It gives you a way to notice the old you the moment it appears, name it without turning it into a life sentence, and leave a half-second of room to choose the version you're actually building.

Ricardo De Castro King — Clinical Psychologist

Who's with you

I'm Ricardo, and you won't be alone in this

I'm a clinical psychologist with more than 15 years working with people who feel like they keep relapsing into old versions of themselves, trained in systemic family therapy. I'm Colombian, based in Barranquilla, and I see clients online. But before any title, I'm someone who understands what it's like to hold two languages and two worlds at once. Many of the people I work with in English think in Spanish first — they migrated, or grew up shuttling between countries, or had to become the adult of the family in a language nobody taught them for that job. You don't have to explain that part to me first.

Catching the old you in the moment is easier with someone next to you who can help you build the label before you need it. If this feels like the moment, let's take the first step together — at your pace, no pressure.

Master's in Systemic Family Therapy

Universidad Simón Bolívar

Clinical Psychologist

15+ years of clinical experience

University Professor

16 years of university teaching

Systemic-Relational Approach

Looks at your story and context, not just the symptom

Licensed Psychologist · Professional License 106127 (COLPSIC, Colombia)

Ricardo is licensed as a psychologist in Colombia (Professional License 106127) and works with international clients in private practice. He does not prescribe medication. Rules on cross-border online therapy vary by country and by state, so it's worth checking what applies where you live — and this never replaces local emergency care.

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Sound familiar?

3 signs this is what's happening to you

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You swore you wouldn't do it again

You reacted the same way you did last time — the same argument, the same silence, the same exit. And right behind it, the verdict: "I never change."

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You define yourself by the relapse

Under stress, the version of you that you don't like shows up, and you conclude that's your real self — that the rest was an act. It wasn't. The old you just tends to show up when you're worn down.

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You judge yourself hard for it

The inner punishment is harsh, as if being hard enough on yourself could stop the next relapse. But self-reproach doesn't change the pattern — it feeds it.

My approach

This is how I work with relapse into old patterns

I won't tell you "you have to change" or "just accept who you are." Those lines don't help when what you actually need is a tool you can reach for in the exact moment the pattern shows up. Instead, we build something small and specific together, in the first session, and you take it with you into daily life.

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Two labels, not one verdict

We build a short name for the version of you that shows up under pressure — not to condemn it, but to recognize it — and a second name for the version you're building, the one that chooses differently when it can. Old you, new you.

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A question you can ask in the moment

Next time you react in a way you don't like, the question stops being "why am I like this" and becomes: was that the old you, or the new you? Naming it creates distance. Distance creates choice.

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Choice repeated becomes habit

The new you doesn't get stronger just by naming it once. It needs repetition, practice moments, and someone helping you notice when the old you shows up disguised — especially under the sustained stress that living far from home can bring.

How we start

A clear first step, no pressure

You book your assessment session

Message me on WhatsApp or leave your details in the form. We'll set up a first 60-minute video-call session, at a reduced rate (50% off).

We build your two labels together

In that first session I listen to what the relapse looks like for you, and we start shaping the short names for your old self and your new self — the pair you'll actually use. No rushed diagnoses, no jargon — just understanding, together, what you need.

We shape the process together

You decide with real information, not blindly. If it feels right for you, we agree on a process built around you. If not, I'll still point you toward what you need.

Your first step

Start with an assessment session

A first session to meet each other and shape your process. Reduced rate, so you decide with real information, not out of obligation.

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60 minutes · Video call · 100% confidential

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Want to explore first?

Want to start naming your own pattern?

If you want to look at this on your own before deciding, you can start with free resources in English on MomentoVital — readings and guided exercises to help you notice the old you before it takes over.

Free resources in English

This will take you to MomentoVital, my space for open resources.

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If you're not ready to book and would rather tell me a bit first, message me on WhatsApp or leave your details below. I answer personally within 24 hours, no obligation.

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