Body Image Therapy · Online, in English
It's not about your body. It's about how you get along with it
Professional psychological support for men and women who check the mirror before leaving the house and calculate what to hide. A space to understand where that demanding gaze comes from, and build a different way of living in your body.
When the body becomes a calculation
The mirror before you leave, the clothes you stopped wearing, the photo you delete
You check the mirror before you leave the house and you already know what you're going to try to fix. There's clothing in your closet you don't wear anymore — not because it doesn't fit, but because you can't stand how you look in it. You delete a photo before anyone else sees it. You avoid the pool, the beach, the changing room, any place where your body is on display and you can't control it.
And when you walk into a room — a meeting, a party, a space full of people — you run a silent calculation: who's looking at you, what they're thinking, whether they noticed. That calculation doesn't pick a gender: it happens to women and it happens to men, even though almost no one talks to men about it.
Where that gaze comes from
Nobody is born judging their body. It's learned, at a table, in a house.
In a lot of Latino households, the body gets commented on out loud, at the table, in front of everyone: «that shirt doesn't do you any favors», «you look worn out», «fix yourself up a little». It gets said with nicknames that are called «affectionate», and repeated so often it stops sounding strange. Almost nobody there meant to hurt you — that's how they learned to talk about the body, and that's how they taught you to talk about it too. Maybe some of those words still only make sense to you in Spanish; the sting doesn't always translate, and it doesn't have to for it to still land.
And if you also left your country, that gaze multiplies: you land somewhere your body, your accent, or your skin suddenly become «the different one». You carry the comparison you brought from home and the one from a new environment that also looks at you strangely, at the same time.
What's really at stake
The problem isn't your body. It's the relationship you have with it.
That's why changing how you look — a different outfit, a new angle, editing a photo before you post it — never quieted what actually hurt: the discomfort never lived in the body, it lived in the relationship with it. And that relationship doesn't change on its own when the reflection changes; it changes when you understand where the gaze demanding it from you comes from.
What you've already tried
New clothes, better angles, filters — and it was still there
You've probably already tried a few things: rearranging your whole closet, picking the right angle or filter before posting a photo, avoiding rooms with mirrors, comparing old photos to how you look now. None of that was wrong — it makes sense to look for relief wherever you can find it. But if that critical gaze was still there after every attempt, it's because the problem was never just how you look — it was the relationship with your body, and that isn't solved from the outside.
If this includes restriction, bingeing, or purging
That needs a specialized assessment, not a web page. In the initial session we'll talk about it seriously and I'll point you toward the right care. If you're in crisis or having thoughts of harming yourself, please seek help now: in Colombia, Line 106; in the US, 988. You are not alone.
Who's with you
I'm Ricardo, and you won't be alone in this
I'm a clinical psychologist with more than 15 years of experience, trained in systemic family therapy. But before any title, I offer a presence: someone who listens without rushing you and holds, together with you, what feels hard to carry alone today. Many of the people I work with in English think in Spanish first — the critical voice they grew up with still speaks that language, even in a session held in English. You don't have to explain that part to me first.
The relationship with your body is easier to work through with someone next to you. If this feels like the moment, let's take the first step together — at your pace, no pressure.
Master's in Systemic Family Therapy
Universidad Simón Bolívar
Clinical Psychologist
15+ years of clinical experience
University Professor
16 years teaching psychology
Systemic-Relational Approach
Evidence-based
My approach
What we work on in therapy
I work from a systemic-relational approach: I don't see your discomfort with your body as a character flaw, but as something learned in your history of relationships — which can be unlearned.
The way you talk to your body
We look at how you talk to yourself in front of the mirror, and how much it sounds like how people talked to you at home.
The moments that trigger the calculation
The photo, the pool, the closet, the gathering. We identify the concrete moments and what goes through your head in each one.
A relationship with your body that doesn't depend on anyone's gaze
The goal isn't for you to like everything you see. It's for you to stop living at war with your reflection.
How we start
A clear first step, no pressure
You book your initial session
Message me on WhatsApp or leave your details in the form. We'll set up a first 60-minute video-call session, at a reduced rate (25% off).
We get to know your situation
In that first session I listen to how that critical gaze shows up in your day to day, and since when you've noticed it. No rushed diagnoses: if anything points to restriction, bingeing, or purging, I'll point you toward the assessment that fits.
We shape the process together
You decide with real information, not blindly. If it feels right for you, we agree on a process built around you. If not, I'll still point you toward what you need.
I'm not trying to get you to like everything you see in the mirror. I'm trying to help you stop being at war with your reflection.
— Ricardo De Castro King · Psychologist
Your first step
Start with an initial session
A first session to meet each other and shape your process. Reduced rate, so you decide with real information, not out of obligation.
60 minutes · Video call · 100% confidential
Book My Initial SessionIs it more than the body?
Sometimes how you treat your body is part of something bigger
If you notice that same demanding voice shows up in how you treat yourself in general — not only in front of the mirror — it might be worth looking at your relationship with yourself more broadly.
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Frequently asked questions
Is this the same as an eating disorder?
Not necessarily. If you notice restriction, bingeing, or purging, that needs a specialized assessment; in the session I'll point you toward that seriously and without judgment.
How do you work on the relationship with the body in therapy, beyond just talking?
We identify the concrete situations that trigger that critical gaze — the mirror, the photo, the closet — and build, step by step, a different way of living in your body.
Does this happen to men too?
Yes. This isn't only a women's issue; it happens to men too, even though almost no one talks to them about it.
Does online therapy work for this?
Yes, I work with the same approach and the same care as in in-person therapy.
How much does the first session cost?
US$37.49 (25% off the regular US$49.99 rate), 60 minutes by video call.
Prefer to talk first?
Message me and I'll answer personally
If you're not ready to book and would rather tell me a bit first, message me on WhatsApp or leave your details below. I answer personally within 24 hours, no obligation.
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If you're in emotional crisis or having thoughts of harming yourself, please seek help right away: in Colombia, call Line 106, or in the US call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline), or reach your local mental health line. You are not alone, and help is available right now.