Choosing Your Battles · Online, in English
Not every fight is winnable — and staying in the ones that already ended costs you the energy you need for what you can actually still move. A space to learn the difference, in English, with someone who thinks the way you do.
When you can't let it go
It's not that you're stubborn, and it's not that you don't know how to let go. Nobody taught you how to tell a battle you can still win from one that was already lost before you walked in — an argument with a parent that isn't going to change now, a partner who isn't going to see it your way this time, a version of yourself the people back home stopped picturing the day you left. For a lot of people who move between Spanish and English every day, there's an extra one waiting: proving to the ones who stayed that leaving was worth it.
Therapy doesn't ask you to just accept things or stop caring. It helps you see clearly which fights are actually still yours to win, and where you've been spending energy on a card that was never going to come up — so what's left goes toward what you can still move.
Sound familiar?
There's a fight that never closes, no matter how many times you take it on again.
Every time you push to change what won't change, you lose energy you need for what you actually can move.
The migrant's extra battle: showing the people who stayed that it was worth it to leave.
Who's with you
I'm a clinical psychologist with more than 15 years of clinical experience, trained in systemic family therapy. I'm Colombian, based in Barranquilla, and I see clients online. But before any title, I'm someone who knows what it's like to carry two languages and two worlds at once — and to keep fighting a battle that doesn't move, especially the quiet one of proving to the people who stayed that leaving was the right call. Many of the people I work with in English think in Spanish first — they migrated, or grew up shuttling between countries, or had to become the strong one in a language nobody trained them for that job. You don't have to explain that part to me first.
Learning to read which battles are still winnable is easier with someone next to you. If this feels like the moment, let's take the first step together — at your pace, no pressure.
Master's in Systemic Family Therapy
Universidad Simón Bolívar
Clinical Psychologist
15+ years of clinical experience
University Professor
16 years teaching psychology at university
Systemic-Relational Approach
Works with your relationships and context
My approach
I work from a systemic-relational approach: I don't look at the fight you're stuck in as something to just resolve, but as something shaped by your story, your relationships, and the loyalties — family, cultural, migration — that keep it running.
We look at what's actually shaped by your story and your relationships, not just the fight in front of you — so you can tell which battles are still open and which ones already closed.
A concrete exercise: "theirs" — what you don't control — and "yours, for you" — what you do. Moving your energy from one column to the other is where the actual change happens.
The goal isn't to stop caring or go numb. It's for the energy you've been spending on cards that already fell to go back into what you can still build — your decisions, your relationships, your rest.
How we start
Message me on WhatsApp or leave your details in the form. We'll set up a first 60-minute video-call session, at a reduced rate (50% off).
In that first session I listen to your story and to the fight — or fights — that keep repeating in your life. No rushed diagnoses, no jargon — just understanding, together, what you need.
You decide with real information, not blindly. If it feels right for you, we agree on a process built around you. If not, I'll still point you toward what you need.
If you put five cents of energy on that card, you already lost it. That battle was lost.
— Ricardo De Castro King · Psychologist
Your first step
A first session to meet each other and shape your process. Reduced rate, so you decide with real information, not out of obligation.
60 minutes · Video call · 100% confidential
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This same idea is also written up in Spanish, in case there's someone in your life who'd rather read it that way.
Si pusiste 5 centavos en esa carta, ya la perdisteOpens the Spanish-language article on this same subject.
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