Fear of Abandonment Therapy · Online · In English

It's not about the person you can't let go of. It's about the home you never had.

Maybe you grew up with a parent who left — for work, for a visa, for a "better future," always framed as "for you" — and learned early that love meant waiting for someone to come back. Now, as an adult, letting go of someone can feel like losing the one safe place you finally found. That's not weakness, and it's not really about them. It's a pattern worth understanding, not a flaw to fix alone.

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When holding on feels like survival

Fear of abandonment isn't about being "too much." It's about what "not enough" once meant.

Maybe you check their last seen, replay the last conversation, and feel your whole day tilt when they don't respond. You've told yourself to stop, to let go, to move on — and something underneath doesn't obey. That's not because the relationship itself is that important. It's because letting go can feel like losing a shelter, not just a person.

For a lot of people who grew up watching a parent leave — to work in another country, to send money home, to build a "better future" that was always described as being for the family — love got tangled up early with waiting. The people who loved you most were also the ones who left. So now, holding on to someone who isn't good for you can feel less like a choice and more like protecting the one safe place you managed to build. That's not about them. It's about the home you never quite got to keep.

Ricardo De Castro King — Clinical psychologist

Who's with you

I'm Ricardo, and I look at where the pattern started — not just today's panic

I'm a clinical psychologist with more than 15 years accompanying people who can't seem to let go, trained in systemic family therapy. That training means I don't just work with today's anxious checking or the fear of being left — I look at the bond itself, the family history behind it, and what it's really standing in for. I live and practice from Barranquilla, Colombia, and I work with clients online, in English. I think in Spanish too, and I understand what it means to build a sense of home across a border, a screen, or a language.

This kind of pattern is easier to understand with someone beside you than alone with the same story on a loop. If this feels like the moment, let's take the first step together — at your pace, no strings attached.

Master's in Systemic Family Therapy

Universidad Simón Bolívar

Clinical psychologist

More than 15 years of experience

University professor

Teaching and research in psychology

Systemic-relational approach

Evidence-based

Professional License 106127 (COLPSIC)

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My approach

How I support fear of abandonment in therapy

I work from a systemic-relational approach: I don't treat this as a habit to break through willpower, but as part of your history, your bonds, and — for many of the people I work with — a family story that crossed a border before you did.

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The pattern, not just today's panic

We look at when this need for reassurance began, not just the text you're waiting on right now, so you understand where the fear actually comes from.

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The old debt, named instead of repaid forever

An early need for shelter that went unmet is easy to keep paying off without ever asking who you're really paying it to. We trace it back to where it started.

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A safety that isn't borrowed from someone else

Part of the work is building your own sense of home — routines, people, a sense of "enough" — instead of needing one person to hold all of it for you.

How we begin

A clear first step, no pressure

You schedule your assessment session

Message me on WhatsApp or leave your details in the form. We'll book a first 60-minute video session, at a reduced rate (50% off).

We talk through what you can't let go of

In that first session, I listen to your story — who this is about, how long the pattern has been there, and what it's been protecting you from, wherever in the world you've been carrying it. No rushed diagnoses, no jargon: just understanding, together, what you need.

We decide the process together

You decide with real information, not blindly. If it feels right, we build a process suited to you. If not, I'll still point you toward what you need.

Your first step

Start with an assessment session

A first session to get to know each other and shape your process. At a reduced rate, so you decide with real information — not out of obligation.

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60 minutes · Video call · 100% confidential

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Write to me, and I'll answer personally

If you're not ready to schedule yet and would rather tell me what's going on first, message me on WhatsApp or leave your details below. I answer personally, usually within 24 hours, no obligation.

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📍 Online · Barranquilla, Colombia

🕑 Mon–Fri 8am–7pm · Sat 9am–1pm (Colombia time)

If you're in an emotional crisis or having thoughts of harming yourself, please seek help right away: in Colombia, Line 106; in the U.S., call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline); or the mental health or emergency line in your own city. You are not alone, and you deserve support right now.