Codependency Therapy · Online · In English

You shouldn't have to earn love by solving everyone's problems

Support for the pattern of feeling responsible for the people you love — even from another country, even when saying no makes the guilt arrive before the words do. A systemic lens that looks at the relationship, not just you.

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First assessment session

A first session to understand your situation and shape the process together. You decide with real information, not blindly.

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60 min · Video call

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When caring for others becomes the only way to belong

Maybe the phone rings every day, and it's not really a conversation — it's a problem waiting for you to solve it.

Maybe you're the one who sends the money, makes the calls, and fixes what's broken back home, while you're also trying to build a whole life somewhere else. And when you picture saying no, the guilt gets there before the words do — because "they gave you everything," so how could you possibly set a limit now.

This isn't a flaw in you, and it isn't about anyone in your family doing something wrong. It's a pattern — usually one that made sense once, in a relationship or a family where being needed was the safest way to belong. Understanding it doesn't mean blaming anyone. It means learning what it would feel like to be loved without having to earn it first.

Ricardo De Castro King — Clinical psychologist

Who's with you

I'm Ricardo, and I look at the pattern — not just you

I'm a clinical psychologist with more than 15 years accompanying people through this exact pattern, trained in systemic family therapy. That training matters here: I don't look at your caretaking as something broken in you to fix. I look at the relationship it grew inside of — who taught you that love had to be earned, and what it would take to unlearn that without losing the people you care about. I live and practice from Barranquilla, Colombia, and I work with clients online, in English. I think in Spanish too, and I understand what it means to hold a family together from across a border.

This pattern is easier to look at with someone beside you. If this feels like the moment, let's take the first step together — at your pace, no strings attached.

Master's in Systemic Family Therapy

Universidad Simón Bolívar

Clinical psychologist

More than 15 years of experience

University professor

Teaching and research in psychology

Systemic-relational approach

Evidence-based

Professional License 106127 (COLPSIC)

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My approach

How I support this pattern in therapy

I work from a systemic-relational approach: I don't treat this as a defect in your character, but as something that grew inside your relationships — and something that can change inside them, too.

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The bond, not a label

We look at this pattern inside the relationships where it formed — who it protected you from, and what it cost you — instead of turning it into something fixed about who you are.

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Boundaries without the guilt trip

We practice setting limits — especially with family that's used to you fixing things — in a way that doesn't have to feel like ingratitude, and doesn't require cutting anyone off to do it.

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Supporting people from here, without losing yourself

If you're holding up family or a partner from another country, we sort out what you can keep doing because you want to, and what's quietly costing you more than it should.

How we begin

A clear first step, no pressure

You schedule your assessment session

Message me on WhatsApp or leave your details in the form. We'll book a first 60-minute video session, at a reduced rate (50% off).

We talk through what's happening

In that first session, I listen to your story — what these relationships look like, and how you've been carrying them, wherever in the world you're carrying them from. No rushed diagnoses, no jargon: just understanding, together, what you need.

We decide the process together

You decide with real information, not blindly. If it feels right, we build a process suited to you. If not, I'll still point you toward what you need.

Your first step

Start with an assessment session

A first session to get to know each other and shape your process. At a reduced rate, so you decide with real information — not out of obligation.

US$25US$49.9950%

60 minutes · Video call · 100% confidential

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Prefer to talk first?

Write to me, and I'll answer personally

If you're not ready to schedule yet and would rather tell me what's going on first, message me on WhatsApp or leave your details below. I answer personally, usually within 24 hours, no obligation.

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📍 Online · Barranquilla, Colombia

🕑 Mon–Fri 8am–7pm · Sat 9am–1pm (Colombia time)

If you're in an emotional crisis or having thoughts of harming yourself, please seek help right away: in Colombia, Line 106; in the U.S., call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline); or the mental health or emergency line in your own city. You are not alone, and you deserve support right now.