Family Conflict Therapy · Online, in English

Do you fight with your family over something that shouldn't be this big a deal?

The thing you're fighting about is rarely the thing. Professional psychological support in English — from someone who thinks the way you do. A space to see what the argument is really carrying, without translating it first.

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When a small fight gets too big

This isn't about who's right. It's about why the fight is so much bigger than the topic.

You end up arguing about the dishes, a curfew, whose turn it was to call grandma — and ten minutes in, it doesn't feel like it's about the dishes anymore. The intensity stopped matching the size of the issue a while ago, and nobody in the room can quite say when. That mismatch is worth paying attention to. Often the object of the fight isn't the object. It's the only place where someone in the family gets to have a say at all.

For families split between two countries or two languages, this shows up in its own way. A teenager caught between what's expected at home and how life actually works outside it can feel like their vote never counts on the things that matter — so the small things become the one territory where they fight to be heard.

Recognize it first

3 signs this might be happening in your family

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You fight about something small

The intensity doesn't match the topic. It feels like you're fighting about something much bigger than what's actually on the table.

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Someone doesn't get a vote

There's someone in the house whose opinion doesn't count when it comes to the decisions that actually matter.

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The fight grows on its own

Every time the topic comes up, the argument spirals past where anyone expected, and nobody quite understands why.

Ricardo De Castro King — Clinical Psychologist

Who's with you

I'm Ricardo, and you won't have to sort this out alone

I'm a clinical psychologist with more than 15 years working with families in conflict, trained in systemic family therapy. I'm Colombian, based in Barranquilla, and I see clients online. Many of the people I work with in English think in Spanish first — the fight that started over something small at dinner, and then didn't let anyone sleep, often happened first in Spanish, in a house where being unheard was never named out loud. You don't have to explain that part to me first.

Understanding what a fight is really carrying is easier with someone next to you. If this feels like the moment, let's take the first step together — at your pace, no pressure.

Master's in Systemic Family Therapy

Universidad Simón Bolívar

Clinical Psychologist

15+ years of clinical experience

University Professor

16 years of university teaching

Systemic-Relational Approach

Looks at the whole family, not just one member

Licensed Psychologist · Professional License 106127 (COLPSIC, Colombia)

Ricardo is licensed as a psychologist in Colombia (Professional License 106127) and works with international clients in private practice. He does not prescribe medication. Rules on cross-border online therapy vary by country and by state, so it's worth checking what applies where you live — and this never replaces local emergency care.

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My approach

This is how I work with family conflict in therapy

I work from a systemic-relational approach: I won't tell you "your kid is difficult" or "your parent is impossible." That doesn't explain why the fight is so much bigger than the topic. What explains it is that the object isn't the object — it's the symbol.

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The object is never the object

When an argument feels bigger than the topic, what's actually at stake usually isn't the topic. It's whether someone has a voice at all. The fight over something concrete becomes the only territory where that person gets to have a say.

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An exercise, not just a theory

We work with one sentence: "What we're really fighting about here is ___." Voice, space, being taken into account. Then we look at giving that person a real vote in something small, this week.

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What travels across two cultures

For families abroad, a kid caught between two cultures often feels like they don't get a vote — and fights over the small things with an intensity that matches what those things actually represent.

How we start

A clear first step, no pressure

You book your assessment session

Message me on WhatsApp or leave your details in the form. We'll set up a first 60-minute video-call session, at a reduced rate (50% off).

We get to know your situation

In that first session I listen to what the fight is really about, and who in the family isn't being heard. No rushed diagnoses, no jargon — just understanding, together, what you need.

We shape the process together

You decide with real information, not blindly. If it feels right for you, we agree on a process built around you. If not, I'll still point you toward what you need.

Your first step

Start with an assessment session

A first session to meet each other and shape your process. Reduced rate, so you decide with real information, not out of obligation.

US$25US$49.9950%

60 minutes · Video call · 100% confidential

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Want to explore first?

Want to understand what's behind the fight first?

If you want to learn more while you decide, you can start here. MomentoVital is my space for open psychology resources in English, to support you starting today.

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Also in therapy

Other family processes I can walk with you through

Family Roles Family Patterns Couples Therapy Setting Boundaries

This page is about the fight itself — a small thing that explodes past its size. Family Roles looks at the part you've been playing since childhood; Family Patterns looks at what you repeat with a partner. The three often overlap, and we can work with more than one.

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If you're not ready to book and would rather tell me a bit first, message me on WhatsApp or leave your details below. I answer personally within 24 hours, no obligation.

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