Relationship Patterns · Online, in English
What you repeat with your partner isn't a flaw — it's something you can trace, and cut
Professional psychological support in English — from someone who thinks the way you do. A space to look at the patterns you learned before you had words for them, and choose differently now, without translating yourself first.
When it feels like déjà vu
It's not a flaw in you. It's something you learned before you had words for it.
Maybe you heard yourself say, in English, the exact phrase your mother used to say in Spanish — and you couldn't believe it came out of your mouth. Or you noticed that in every relationship you're the one who gives more, and it felt so normal you never questioned it, because that's what you watched at home. For a lot of people who move between two languages and two countries, the pattern doesn't stay behind when you migrate: it packs itself into the move, and shows up again in a new city, in a language that isn't the one you learned it in.
Therapy here doesn't start from "your parents are to blame." It starts from tracing the pattern like you'd trace a family tree — so you can see what you repeat isn't a failure, it's information. And once you can see where it comes from, you get to choose something different.
Recognize it first
3 signs you might be repeating an inherited pattern
You said what you swore you'd never say
You heard yourself say a phrase that belonged to your mother or your father. And you couldn't believe it came out of your mouth.
You always give more than you receive
Sacrificing yourself in the relationship feels normal to you. But if you look closely, it's what you watched your whole life at home.
You changed countries, not patterns
You thought migrating would leave it behind. But the inheritance travels with you, even when you move.
Who's with you
I'm Ricardo, and you won't have to trace this alone
I'm a clinical psychologist with more than 15 years working with couples and families, trained in systemic family therapy. I'm Colombian, based in Barranquilla, and I see clients online. Many of the people I work with in English think in Spanish first — they migrated, or grew up moving between countries, and noticed the same patterns from home showing up again in a new language. You don't have to explain that part to me first.
I won't tell you your parents are to blame. Together we look at where a pattern was learned, so you can decide — with real information — whether to keep it or change it.
Master's in Systemic Family Therapy
Universidad Simón Bolívar
Clinical Psychologist
15+ years of clinical experience
University Professor
16 years of university teaching in psychology
Approach
Systemic-relational
Ricardo is licensed as a psychologist in Colombia (Professional License 106127) and works with international clients in private practice. He does not prescribe medication. Rules on cross-border online therapy vary by country and by state, so it's worth checking what applies where you live — and this never replaces local emergency care.
Book a Session With MeMy approach
This is how I work with inherited patterns in therapy
I work from a systemic-relational approach: I don't look at what you repeat as a personal flaw, but as something shaped by what you saw at home, the relationships around you, and the moves — geographic, cultural, linguistic — that carried it forward.
Tracing the pattern, not assigning blame
We won't stop at "your parents are to blame." Together we trace the pattern like a family tree, so you can see it's not a flaw in you — it's information. And information can be worked with.
A different question to ask
The question isn't "why am I like this?" It's "who did I learn this from?" That question moves you out of guilt and into the ground where you can actually choose something different.
What travels across borders
Moving countries doesn't erase what you learned at home — a pattern can travel with you even when the language around you changes. We look at what packed itself into the move, and what's yours to keep or let go of.
How we start
A clear first step, no pressure
You book your initial session
Message me on WhatsApp or leave your details in the form. We'll set up a first 60-minute video-call session, at a reduced rate (25% off).
We get to know your situation
In that first session I listen to what repeats in your relationships and where you first saw it. No rushed diagnoses, no jargon — just understanding, together, what you need.
We shape the process together
You decide with real information, not blindly. If it feels right for you, we agree on a process built around you. If not, I'll still point you toward what you need.
I'd ask you: where did you learn to sacrifice yourself in a relationship? … That comes from home.
— Ricardo De Castro King · Psychologist
Your first step
Start with an initial session
A first session to meet each other and shape your process. Reduced rate, so you decide with real information, not out of obligation.
60 minutes · Video call · 100% confidential
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Couples sessions are also available
If this pattern shows up between you and your partner, we can look at it together in a couples session — or go further once you know the process fits, with a package of sessions.
- Couples session—US$60, 75 min
- Package of 5 sessions—US$249.95
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Prefer to talk first?
Message me and I'll answer personally
If you're not ready to book and would rather tell me a bit first, message me on WhatsApp or leave your details below. I answer personally within 24 hours, no obligation.
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