After an Emotional Outburst · Online, in English
You don't know when it's coming again — but you know it could
Professional psychological support in English — from someone who thinks the way you do. A space to tell today's real signals apart from the alarm your body kept from the last blow-up, and slowly learn to lower your guard again.
When the alarm outlives the outburst
The blow-up is over. Your body never got the memo.
You're not paranoid for staying alert all the time. You learned that things can blow up without warning, and your body keeps searching for a timer that isn't there. There's no event left to actually fear — just the certainty that it could happen again — so you scan tone of voice, timing, silence, looking for the sign that never quite comes. For a lot of people living between Spanish and English, that vigilance doesn't stay quiet either: you replay the argument in your head in Spanish, hunting for the exact moment it turned, but then you have to describe the fear of it happening again out loud in English — to a partner, a friend, a new person you're dating — and something gets lost crossing over, so the alert just keeps circling with nowhere to land.
Therapy doesn't ask you to just relax or trust blindly. It helps you separate what is a real signal in your life today from what is vigilance you're still carrying from the last explosion — so you can lower your guard on purpose, not by accident.
Does this sound like you?
3 signs this is what's happening
You live bracing for the next blow-up
You know something could happen again, even if you can't say what or when. Your body doesn't switch off.
You keep looking for a warning that doesn't exist
You check, you analyze, you watch. Your body is hunting for a signal that would announce the next explosion.
You trust, but you can't fully lower your guard
Your new relationship or your new life is going well, but part of you stays on high alert anyway.
Who's with you
I'm Ricardo, and you won't be alone in this
I'm a clinical psychologist with more than 15 years working with people rebuilding trust after a betrayal or an emotional blow-up, trained in systemic family therapy. I'm Colombian, based in Barranquilla, and I see clients online. But before any title, I'm someone who understands what it's like to hold two languages and two worlds at once. Many of the people I work with in English think in Spanish first — they carry the memory of what exploded in one language, and have to put words to the fear of it happening again in another. You don't have to translate that part for me first.
Learning to lower your guard again is easier with someone next to you. If this feels like the moment, let's take the first step together — at your pace, no pressure.
Master's in Systemic Family Therapy
Universidad Simón Bolívar
Clinical Psychologist
15+ years of clinical experience
University Professor
16 years teaching psychology
Systemic-Relational Approach
Signal separated from inherited alarm
My approach
This is how I work with this in therapy
I work from a systemic-relational approach: I don't treat your vigilance as something simply irrational to switch off. It's information shaped by what actually happened to you, and the work is learning to read it accurately instead of letting it run on its own.
From alarm to information
Instead of asking your body to just stop watching, we look at what part of that vigilance is actually protecting you today, and what part is an echo carried over from a different relationship, a different moment.
Signal versus inheritance
A written exercise: naming, one by one, what has evidence in your present situation and what doesn't. What has no evidence today gets named as inheritance, not as a valid alarm right now.
Trust, rebuilt on purpose
Not a promise that nothing will ever happen again, but clear ways to notice real change instead of scanning for danger everywhere. The goal is that you get to choose again, instead of only watching.
How we start
A clear first step, no pressure
You book your initial session
Message me on WhatsApp or leave your details in the form. We'll set up a first 60-minute video-call session, at a reduced rate (25% off).
We get to know your situation
In that first session I listen to what happened, what you're watching for now, and how that vigilance shows up in your day to day. No rushed diagnoses, no jargon — just understanding, together, what you need.
We shape the process together
You decide with real information, not blindly. If it feels right for you, we agree on a process built around you. If not, I'll still point you toward what you need.
You're not imagining threats that aren't there. You're carrying a warning system built for a different moment — and it can be recalibrated for the one you're in now.
— Ricardo De Castro King · Psychologist
Your first step
Start with an initial session
A first session to meet each other and shape your process. Reduced rate, so you decide with real information, not out of obligation.
60 minutes · Video call · 100% confidential
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Why a session, not just reassurance
Being told "you can trust them" doesn't turn off an alarm your body built after something already went wrong. That first session is where we start mapping your specific pattern — what's a real signal today, what's inherited vigilance, and what it's costing you to stay on guard all the time.
No pressure to continue afterward. You leave with clarity either way.
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Other processes I can walk with you through
Prefer to talk first?
Message me and I'll answer personally
If you're not ready to book and would rather tell me a bit first, message me on WhatsApp or leave your details below. I answer personally within 24 hours, no obligation.
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If you're in emotional crisis or having thoughts of harming yourself or someone else, please seek help right away: in Colombia, call Line 106, or in the US call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline), or reach your local mental health line. You are not alone, and help is available right now.